• Better Than Happiness
    It may sound strange coming from someone who has written dozens of blogs about happiness and taught a lot of seminars on the subject, to hear that happiness isn’t necessarily all that it’s cracked up to more
    - 8 hours ago, 20 Dec 14, 10:35pm -
  • Should You Share Your Toxic Thoughts With Your Partner?
    Can your love become stronger by sharing with your partner what you don't like about him or her? read more
    - 8 hours ago, 20 Dec 14, 10:34pm -
  • 10 Tips for Surmounting In-Law Difficulties
    “Neutral” is rarely a word associated with in-laws; most are puzzling or problematic in some way— attempting to oversee your life, meddling in your marriage, telling you how to raise your children and the list goes one. Here, insights and tips…
    - 15 hours ago, 20 Dec 14, 3:41pm -
  • What's Really Behind Rebound Sex
    Following the breakup of a close romantic relationship, both partners are likely to experience distress. However, when the breakup is one brought about by the partner, this distress often translates into rebound sex. Who's at risk and who isn't depen…
    - 17 hours ago, 20 Dec 14, 1:49pm -
  • 3 Priceless Gifts for Your Beloved
    Fancy gifts and pricey presents may seem appealing, but daily gifts of time and attention pay off better in the long term in promoting relationship more
    - 2 days ago, 19 Dec 14, 6:33pm -
  • Why Dad’s “Talk” is Important
    Does it matter if Dad doesn’t discuss emotions? Yes, yes, yes!read more
    - 2 days ago, 19 Dec 14, 6:13pm -
  • 10 Ways Any Leader Can Build Trust in the New Year
    If you want more engaged, innovative, and passionate contributors where you work, there isone New Year's resolution you will need to make, and more
    - 2 days ago, 19 Dec 14, 4:18pm -
  • Why Breakups Are Actually Tougher on Men
    Women initiate more divorces than men and women may suffer less post-breakup. The negative physical and emotional health effects of divorce are larger for men, perhaps in part because men depend more on their spouse to encourage healthy behavior and…
    - 2 days ago, 19 Dec 14, 7:08am -
  • “Mr. Mom” The New (or Old?) Normal
    When it comes to parenting, mothers traditionally get all of the attention. But biology and evolution show us that dads are essential more
    - 2 days ago, 18 Dec 14, 8:31pm -
  • Uncovering the Most Toxic Pattern in Relationships
    Of all the behaviors that can damage or torpedo relationships, there's one that's been singled out as especially pernicious. Is this a pattern of interaction at your house? Or do you sometimes get perilously close? If so, ignore this post at your own…
    - 3 days ago, 18 Dec 14, 4:58pm -


  • Hands Off

    Hands Off

    - 4 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:37am -
  • Foot in mouth syndrome
    Sometimes I forget that she has feelings, that she isn’t calloused over or numb like me. I for
    - 4 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:35am -
  • Sorry is never enough
    I have often heard it said that nothing is a total wash. That from each experience either good or ba
    - 4 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:24am -
  • Relationships, the good and the bad
    Relationships are made and broken on a daily basis. Sometimes its due to lack of love that has been
    - 4 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:22am -
  • Bias Investigations

    Bias Investigations

    - 5 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:19am -
  • Approaching a Milestone
    According to the WordPress stats, this week’s entry will be the 99th post for this blog, and t
    - 5 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:01am -
  • ...and knowing is half the battle

    ...and knowing is half the battle

    So, Mr.A… The how I ended up crying during sexy times…and also just not performing well
    - 5 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 2:00am -
  • Gifting For The Holidays
    This time of the year, many folks are contemplating what presents to give to their friends and famil
    - 5 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 1:57am -
  • revolving double jeopardy for life please (lyrics/lyrical)
    do you get out of your bed when i can’t get to sleep? do you ever become numb from too many li
    - 5 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 1:55am -
  • I Answered His Call
    I thought the number looked familiar but I never thought he’d call again. Then I picked up the phone
    - 5 hours ago, 21 Dec 14, 1:54am -



    • Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt: Insight-Gems for Singles
      I am so pleased to share my interview with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt on the conscious search for love. Simply interviewing this extraordinary couple was an inspiring experience. There are many gems of insight here, and I encourage every…
      - 35 days ago, 16 Nov 14, 1:25pm -
    • How to Discover Your Core Intimacy Gifts
      Young or old, single or coupled, each of us is faced with the great challenge of learning to love. Our core gifts lie at the heart of our intimacy journey, and when we identify them, we hold an invaluable key to understanding ourselves and all our re…
      - 63 days ago, 19 Oct 14, 3:54pm -
    • Lady Valor: Kristin Beck, gender-role freedom and love
      Lady Valor, airing this Thursday, is an inspiring CNN documentary about transgender activist Kristin Beck. As a decorated Navy Seal, Christopher Beck crossed enemy lines to fight for freedom. As Kristin, she crosses equally scary enemy lines; the gen…
      - 1 Sep 14, 4:07pm -
    • 2 Ideas That Will Change The Way You Think About Romance
      The majority of dating advice subtly guides us away from authentic intimacy. In its superficial fixation on looks, games and gimmicks, such advice sparks insecurity and encourages unkindness toward ourselves and others. According to exciting research…
      - 18 Aug 14, 2:00pm -
    • A Simple Question That Will Change Your Search for Love
      Most advice on seeking love focuses on the skills of seeking, not the skills of loving. Apps, events and websites offer endless opportunities to meet, but until we learn how to choose healthy intimacy and nurture its tender new shoots, it’s unlikel…
      - 30 Jun 14, 2:41pm -
    • An Interview with Judith Orloff, MD: The Power of Surrender
      Judith Orloff, M.D. is a psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and NY Times bestselling author. Her most recent book is the national bestseller The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life. In this interview, Judith explain…
      - 2 Jun 14, 11:08am -
    • What No One Teaches Us About Love
      Fear of intimacy isn’t a character flaw rendering us unfit for intimacy; it is part of being human. If we're breathing, we have fear of intimacy. The real question is: How do we keep love at arms length-and what can we do to change that? read more
      - 1 Mar 14, 12:01pm -
    • The Power of the Gifts We Hide
      Each of us creates a “false self” to protect our “true self” when it feels frightening to be genuine in the world. If our false self becomes dominant, it begins to bury the very qualities it was originally designed to protect. These buried qu…
      - 17 Dec 13, 11:59am -
    • The Two Best Questions For Your Sex Life
      Often, the questions we ask of ourselves are what finally carve the shape of our lives. A great question excites us, opens new doors, and invites both compassion and curiosity. I’d like to offer two such questions about sex. Your answers will teach…
      - 18 Nov 13, 12:04pm -
    • Creating an Intimacy-Rich Life: A Journey In Three Stages
      In my practice as a psychotherapist, I’ve observed a remarkable pattern in the lives of people who strive for healthy intimacy. This pattern is marked by three important--and often surprising—stages. Each stage is a mark of real progress, yet few…
      - 21 Oct 13, 2:17pm -
    • Three Mindfulness Exercises to Improve Your Dating Life
      The search for a loving partner is one of our great life-tasks. Yet most dating advice is superficial; focusing endlessly upon the power of seduction and flat abs. Here are three exercises which approach dating as an adventure of self-discovery. They…
      - 31 Aug 13, 2:31pm -
    • Seduction Strategies Don't Lead to Love—These Skills Do
      The search for love is one of our greatest life-tasks. Unfortunately, the quality of much dating advice and the atmosphere of most dating venues ranges from superficial to downright demeaning. The skills of dating are the skills of intimacy—not gam…
      - 2 Aug 13, 11:57am -


    • Be A Rori Raye Coach – Free Teleclasses Monday, December 15th
      Ask Me How RRRCT Can Help You Be A Professional, Successful Rori Raye Trained Relationship Coach… If you’re considering enrolling in RRRCT – the Fundamentals for 2015, learning how to help women in their love lives exactly the way I do and get…
      - 9 days ago, 12 Dec 14, 2:04pm -
    • When Are You Actually “Ready” To Meet Mr. Right? Now!
      The Question: “Rori, If a woman doesn’t completely love herself, care for herself, feel happy in herself and secure in herself first, then won’t she keep attracting men who mirror that. If we do the inner work first, then wouldn’t we attra…
      - 12 days ago, 8 Dec 14, 10:13pm -
    • Free RRRCT Teleclass On December 15th – Be a Rori Raye Trained Coach
      Ask Me How RRRCT Can Help You Be A Professional, Successful Rori Raye Trained Relationship Coach… If you’re considering enrolling in RRRCT – the Fundamentals for 2015, learning how to help women in their love lives exactly the way I do and get…
      - 31 days ago, 20 Nov 14, 6:00pm -
    • Luvskool For Newlyweds In Los Angeles With Greta Hassel
      I love Greta. She’s a brilliant/genius therapist/coach – and together with her new husband, Dennis Cohen, they’re an amazing team. They’ll be doing a workshop in Los Angeles on November 22nd. I know we’re not much about “Newlywed” here…
      - 36 days ago, 15 Nov 14, 2:02pm -
    • When Asking Questions Is Actually “Prompting” – And Won’t Go Well With Him….
      Some men  (actually, MANY men… often MOST men… and now I’m beginning to believe ALL men…) dread the feeling of “questions” coming at them It feels like an interview. Often, like an interrogation. Often, like an interrogation from their m…
      - 38 days ago, 13 Nov 14, 2:20pm -
    • Be A Rori Raye Relationship Coach – Enrollment Open!
      Hi, This is Rori….and you can begin actually coaching clients and building your professional coaching practice – as a Rori Raye Coach-In-Training – starting January 19th, 2015 – just two months away! Enrollment is now OPEN for RRRCT - Rori Ra…
      - 41 days ago, 10 Nov 14, 2:16pm -
    • What Voices Are You Listening To?
      Our brains, our thoughts, our heads – are a constant swirl of voices, of thoughts, of words, of patterns, of old cycles, of buttons being pushed and reacted to – it’s a never-ending cacophony of voices. The only question is: What voices are you…
      - 45 days ago, 6 Nov 14, 2:24pm -
    • When Fear Is Stopping You – And You Don’t Even Know it…
      To me, fear is always at bottom. I deal with my fears holding me back every single minute of every day… When I listen to my mother talk (sweet and wonderful and supportive and loving as she is and has always been – I was and am very lucky) – ne…
      - 48 days ago, 3 Nov 14, 2:29pm -
    • The Best Way To Use This Blog
      I want to make sure you’re getting the most out of your experience in the community by getting your own needs for safety and expression met (rather than simply being helpful to others in the community). I actually have a set of guidelines (over in…
      - 51 days ago, 31 Oct 14, 1:40pm -
    • We Get To Choose What We Feed
      The Question: “Rori, I thought being vulnerable meant expressing all feelings i.e. ‘I am angry’  ‘I am sad’ ‘I am famished’ ‘I love to hear your voice before drifting off…’  – good and bad? …is it better to only use feeli…
      - 54 days ago, 28 Oct 14, 1:26pm -


    • Do the Holidays Equal Relationship Doom?
      Yes, it's that time of year again. Thanksgiving kicks off the annual relationship freeze which lasts through the New Year. Much like government wage freezes that leave DMV workers and other civil servants with salaries stuck in 1973, the annual datin…
      - 13 days ago, 8 Dec 14, 8:00am -
    • Celebrate Your Single Self!
      Once upon a time, being single between the months of November and February could make a gal feel like a social misfit. Thank goodness times have changed! How to Celebrate Being SingleOwn your independence.Instead of dreading the office holiday pa…
      - 15 days ago, 6 Dec 14, 8:00am -
    • Top 10 Things Every Single Gal Must Experience
      The other day my girlfriend called up to regale me with yet another of her single and fabulous stories. This one involved cocktails, a hot tub and a couple of sexy strangers. It reminded me of my own single days, and for that matter my own pair of se…
      - 19 Mar 14, 7:05am -


    • New Music: B.U.K | My Flow
      Twenty-three Years Old GRACE OC a.k.a B.U.K is Set to Take the Industry by Storm with Her Debut Single “MY FLOW” The Imo State Born Songstress Started Her Music Career In the year 1999. She Is a Singer/Songwriter, and her music genre is Rnb, Afro…
      - 7 days ago, 14 Dec 14, 11:37am -
    • Cougar Hunting! 5 Benefits Of Dating An Older Woman
      So news has hit the internet that 50 year old Vivica A Fox is dating former Nickelodeon star Robert Richard who is about 32. Read More. It puts her at nearly 20 years older than him. Yes it’s unconventional but it does still happen. So what are the…
      - 16 days ago, 5 Dec 14, 10:14am -
    • Wedding Vendors Display Their Best at WED Expo Abuja October 2014! All The Exclusive Photos
          My Big Nigerian Wedding The city of Abuja witnessed its largest ever wedding exhibition when WED Expo stormed the M & M Event Center from October 17th to 19th. With record breaking attendance and endless creativity from the booths of weddin…
      - 35 days ago, 16 Nov 14, 11:43am -
    • Friendship Chronicles: Growing ‘Up” & Loosing Time
      One of my friends broke up with me last month. Well, kindda. More like a friendship hiatus. Let me start from the beginning. It was two weeks ago that I noticed I hadn’t heard from her in over a month. It was unusual because she would usually ‘pi…
      - 45 days ago, 5 Nov 14, 8:19pm -
    • A Letter to My Ex
      Dear Ex, It’s such a shame that we’re communicating this way but yet I feel it’s for the best. How’s the family? Look at me being all civil and whatnot. You see I can ask about your family, not that you gave two shits about mine despite I mig…
      - 47 days ago, 3 Nov 14, 10:24pm -
    • Would You Share Your Password With Your Partner?
      So a few days ago, a discussion came up amongst friends about whether or not to share your passwords with your partner. That is facebook, Twitter, email etc. For a lot of people, it was about building the trust, and if there’s nothing to hide then…
      - 49 days ago, 2 Nov 14, 5:58am -
    • 7 Bad Times to Break Up with Your Man …
      Although ending a relationship is never fun, there are some bad times to break up that would make the situation even worse. If you’re dating someone, you must care about them. You don’t want to ruin his memories of the good times you shared by br…
      - 50 days ago, 1 Nov 14, 7:36am -
    • Why He Lost Interest In You; A Word Of Advice to Girls
      Can you please stop asking why he is not doing this right, why he is not calling like he used to, why he is not as excited as he used to be? Give us and yourself a break. Take out time and reflect. Ask yourself those questions not him. YES! ASK YOURS…
      - 51 days ago, 31 Oct 14, 7:18am -
    • More Marriages, Less Weddings: Bring Back Chastity and Sanity
      The average Nigerian wedding today takes four phases basically, which obviously does not mean getting married four different times to four different persons, but to the same person in four different ways, as dictated by religion, culture, tradition,…
      - 55 days ago, 27 Oct 14, 5:56am -
    • Love Language: The Art of Love Expression
      “He said I don’t love him anymore, Can you even believe that?  My married friend whined barely taking a break from her Margarita. I didn’t say anything so she continued, “I mean I tell him I love him, at least twice a day….” “Maybe tha…
      - 68 days ago, 14 Oct 14, 4:37am -
    • Marriage Gist: 7 Must-Have Conversations Before “I Do”
      Marriage is defined in a number of ways. It has different meanings depending on the basis on which it is entered. The Bible defines it as a covenant by two individuals and God. The law defines it as a contract. Cultural anthropologists have defined i…
      - 74 days ago, 8 Oct 14, 5:42am -
    • Husband Gist: Dear NwaVic, Am I Settling?
      Dear NwaVic, I’m in my late 20s (ok, almost 30 lol) and ready to settle down. I am dating around and generally getting a feel of what I want in a husband. None of them particularly stand out. The one who is my type to the T and with whom I seem to…
      - 89 days ago, 23 Sep 14, 6:01pm -
    • 6 Reasons Why Being Single Pretty Much Sucks
      Being single whether by choice or by circumstance has its benefits. Many some might add, but being single also has its down sides, and quite a bit if you ask me. No one here is encouraging you to start running after every partner you can just to be i…
      - 95 days ago, 17 Sep 14, 12:09pm -
    • Do You think it is Hard to Find a Good Man in Nigeria? Read what Ali Baba Thinks
      Comedian Ali Baba shares this write up on his Facebook page about the Nigerian woman and finding Mr Right. Read Below…   “I have a serious matter at hand that I want to share. In fact, I should have shared this long ago, but the primary message…
      - 96 days ago, 16 Sep 14, 10:37am -
    • 9 Things Guys Do That Absolutely Annoy Women
      What do they say? Men are from mars and women from Venus? Yes. Men and women might never fully understand each other, but we’ll have to come to accept that. What we do want to do however is try not to annoy each other too much, and that comes with…
      - 11 Sep 14, 10:11am -
    • Dear NwaVic, I Got Engaged and My Friends Disappeared
      Dear NwaVic, I decided to write you today because I know you are also engaged as well.  My fiance proposed to me earlier this year. I was so excited. I love him and my friends all seemed to love him. But then just like magic, they started dropping o…
      - 9 Sep 14, 5:51pm -
    • 11 Signs That You Are Totally In Love
      We all love to love! Who doesn’t like to love? Well some dont. But interestingly enough, most of us don’t even know when we’re falling in love. Here are some signs you’re definitely falling in love. 1) You forget about your ex This is a no br…
      - 26 Aug 14, 11:46am -
    • Dear NwaVic, I Want to See my Wife With Someone Else
      Dear NwaVic, So yes, I am turning to the Internet as my wife and I have discussed the idea of her being with another man. I saw a few of your comments and didn’t know if you may feel comfortable entertaining a few questions about your thoughts and…
      - 18 Aug 14, 10:16pm -
    • 8 Tips On Pulling Off A Successful One Night Stand
      If you’re not one of those holier than thou people then please keep your comments to yourself. For the rest of you read on… If you haven’t had a one night stand before, don’t worry, we have some tips for you on how to pull one off. That’s o…
      - 6 Aug 14, 6:44pm -
    • 7 Marriage Truths You Will Not Hear in the Church
      I came across this article yesterday, thanks to my FB friend Julia. It is written by Frank Powell on his blog. He runs a great blog, by the way. In light of a similar article I penned, this article is very much on-point. By reading, I learned so much…
      - 31 Jul 14, 5:16pm -