• NewThe Exacting Discipline of Choosing Based on Needs
    I want to start with marveling at how far we are, collectively, from taking our needs seriously and making them a priority. Instead, we have been trained to view our needs as a sign of weakness or dependence, and as something bottomless that cannot b…
    - 49 mins ago, 22 Oct 14, 8:49pm -
  • How to Strengthen Your Mental Toughness Like An FBI Agent
    LaRae Quy was a brand new FBI Special Agent, and it was the height of the Cold War, but she was given a huge job. Her assignment was to go undercover and locate a known Soviet spy operating somewhere in Silicon Valley, and to convince him to start sp…
    - 3 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 6:31pm -
  • How to Forgive Yourself and Move on From the Past
    Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right? But what about forgiving ourselves?Even if we’ve gotten pretty good and consistent about offering forgiveness to others, isn’t forgiving ourselves often the most difficult?Understandin…
    - 3 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 6:16pm -
  • This Simple Technique Can Help You Stay Calm With Your Kids
    This simple technique can help you stay calm when kids are pushing your more
    - 4 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 5:43pm -
  • Regret Prevention
    People near the end of life tend to regret not having been more compassionate and loving to those they more
    - 7 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 2:59pm -
  • Four Surprising Principles To Secure Happiness
    We all want to live a happy and satisfied life. While we can’t control all the variables we can use quality science and best practices to maximize the odds that we will have a happier and more satisfied life. Surprisingly, focusing on relationships…
    - 7 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 2:36pm -
  • So You Met Someone You Might Want to Date, Now What?
    What to say and do after you’ve said more
    - 15 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 7:00am -
  • Should You Turn Off Tech at Dinner?
    Today’s parents have a whole new set of table manners to grapple with—those associated with technology. And, according to our survey data, this is a dicey area, where what’s good for the gosling turns out not to be so good for the goose. Some s…
    - 19 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 2:16am -
  • Stop Blaming Your Partner For Your Relationship Unhappiness!
    It is beyond tempting to look at your intimate partner and blame him or her for your relationship woes. But is that really fair to yourself--or your partner?read more
    - 19 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 2:08am -
  • We Shouldn’t Be Scared to Death to Have ‘That’ Conversation
    Leaders can often avoid difficult conversations by convincing ourselves that the other person cannot handle it or will be uncomfortable. However, our personal fears may be preventing us from realizing opportunities to discuss what matters most to the…
    - 1 day ago, 21 Oct 14, 8:36pm -




    • How to Discover Your Core Intimacy Gifts
      Young or old, single or coupled, each of us is faced with the great challenge of learning to love. Our core gifts lie at the heart of our intimacy journey, and when we identify them, we hold an invaluable key to understanding ourselves and all our re…
      - 3 days ago, 19 Oct 14, 3:54pm -
    • Lady Valor: Kristin Beck, gender-role freedom and love
      Lady Valor, airing this Thursday, is an inspiring CNN documentary about transgender activist Kristin Beck. As a decorated Navy Seal, Christopher Beck crossed enemy lines to fight for freedom. As Kristin, she crosses equally scary enemy lines; the gen…
      - 51 days ago, 1 Sep 14, 4:07pm -
    • 2 Ideas That Will Change The Way You Think About Romance
      The majority of dating advice subtly guides us away from authentic intimacy. In its superficial fixation on looks, games and gimmicks, such advice sparks insecurity and encourages unkindness toward ourselves and others. According to exciting research…
      - 65 days ago, 18 Aug 14, 2:00pm -
    • A Simple Question That Will Change Your Search for Love
      Most advice on seeking love focuses on the skills of seeking, not the skills of loving. Apps, events and websites offer endless opportunities to meet, but until we learn how to choose healthy intimacy and nurture its tender new shoots, it’s unlikel…
      - 30 Jun 14, 2:41pm -
    • An Interview with Judith Orloff, MD: The Power of Surrender
      Judith Orloff, M.D. is a psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and NY Times bestselling author. Her most recent book is the national bestseller The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life. In this interview, Judith explain…
      - 2 Jun 14, 11:08am -
    • What No One Teaches Us About Love
      Fear of intimacy isn’t a character flaw rendering us unfit for intimacy; it is part of being human. If we're breathing, we have fear of intimacy. The real question is: How do we keep love at arms length-and what can we do to change that? read more
      - 1 Mar 14, 12:01pm -
    • The Power of the Gifts We Hide
      Each of us creates a “false self” to protect our “true self” when it feels frightening to be genuine in the world. If our false self becomes dominant, it begins to bury the very qualities it was originally designed to protect. These buried qu…
      - 17 Dec 13, 11:59am -
    • The Two Best Questions For Your Sex Life
      Often, the questions we ask of ourselves are what finally carve the shape of our lives. A great question excites us, opens new doors, and invites both compassion and curiosity. I’d like to offer two such questions about sex. Your answers will teach…
      - 18 Nov 13, 12:04pm -
    • Creating an Intimacy-Rich Life: A Journey In Three Stages
      In my practice as a psychotherapist, I’ve observed a remarkable pattern in the lives of people who strive for healthy intimacy. This pattern is marked by three important--and often surprising—stages. Each stage is a mark of real progress, yet few…
      - 21 Oct 13, 2:17pm -
    • Three Mindfulness Exercises to Improve Your Dating Life
      The search for a loving partner is one of our great life-tasks. Yet most dating advice is superficial; focusing endlessly upon the power of seduction and flat abs. Here are three exercises which approach dating as an adventure of self-discovery. They…
      - 31 Aug 13, 2:31pm -
    • Seduction Strategies Don't Lead to Love—These Skills Do
      The search for love is one of our greatest life-tasks. Unfortunately, the quality of much dating advice and the atmosphere of most dating venues ranges from superficial to downright demeaning. The skills of dating are the skills of intimacy—not gam…
      - 2 Aug 13, 11:57am -
    • Why Coming Out Isn't Just For Gay People
      Jason Collins’ coming out electrified the country—for more than political reasons. Everyone wrestles with the struggle between fear and authenticity. Coming out is an act of heroism we're all called to—and you don’t have to be gay to join the…
      - 5 May 13, 1:27pm -


    • Get The Guy – Free Teleclass With Rori Raye Master Coaches
      Get The Guy!! Two Rori Raye Master Coaches reveal their secrets to Happily-Ever-After! Valarie O’Ryan (Find Fairytale Love In A Modern World) Carrie Stanfield (The Secret Allure Of The Type B Woman) Join us Monday October 27th, 2014 at 6 PM (Pacifi…
      - 8 hours ago, 22 Oct 14, 1:23pm -
    • Get Instant Confidence – No Matter WHAT’S Going On Or Where You Are!
      OMG – This is AWESOME!!! Try it! Two minutes of “Power Posing” in the bathroom before a date, two minutes before you make a work/business decision or meet with a potential client or employer….and on and on: Love, RoriRelated posts:Extreme S…
      - 2 days ago, 20 Oct 14, 1:19pm -
    • Did He Go Back To His Ex Because You Didn’t Pursue Him?
      The Question: “Rori, I had this great guy in my life, when we first met he said he is separated and likes to make a family. We went out on few dates, in the last one he said I think you deserve a better man than me, then he started not to call so m…
      - 13 days ago, 9 Oct 14, 1:14pm -
    • More On Getting Triggered And Not “Fixing”
      The response to my last post about “doing nothing” inspired a great question: “Isn’t “doing” the Rori Raye Tools “doing” something?” This question was beautifully answered by Indigo:  “I think Rori means “do nothing” in the s…
      - 16 days ago, 6 Oct 14, 1:14pm -
    • Does Your Family Trigger You Intensely – And What To Do With It
      The answer of what do I do when I feel shaky, frustrated, and  compelled to “fix” the tension in the room is…nothing. Do nothing. Feel everything, do nothing. Otherwise – we start to do, and then we trigger even more, and then we’re into a…
      - 20 days ago, 2 Oct 14, 10:27pm -
    • Emma Watson And Feminism At The United Nations
      I loved this. 1. About Emma personally that is so helpful to see (for me): She’s totally, completely in her emotional self. She’s shaking, clearly nervous and anxious – and she doesn’t try to hide it. It adds power to her presentation. And cr…
      - 28 days ago, 24 Sep 14, 8:02pm -
    • So Much Stuff On My Facebook Page
      I’m generally not much about Facebook (and hardly ever refer anyone there)… …and, yet, I see that in this new world, getting “FB likes” and “shares” equals “getting heard…” Messages come from everywhere… Here are some beautiful…
      - 33 days ago, 19 Sep 14, 10:10pm -
    • What Part Of “Housework” Is “Feminine”?
      Here’s a great letter from Sara about what constitutes “femininity” – is it in the “eye of the beholder…”?: The Question: “Hi Rori and everyone, I would love to hear from you Rori on this, I have got all your programs and think you ar…
      - 37 days ago, 15 Sep 14, 10:25pm -
    • Free Coaching With My New Rori Raye Coach Trainees!
      Here’re the new RRRCT 2014 Coach Trainees – and you can get coached for free by any or all of them! Check out their websites (all very new…), see who you’d like to try out – and contact them directly. Some have scheduling software already,…
      - 50 days ago, 3 Sep 14, 6:04am -
    • Sexual Meditation Helps Everything
      Here is what I see: As long as we are feeling separate from ourselves and others – no amount of talking about “opening up” will help. We have to do the Tools… Here’s how to use the Sensual Meditation from the Have The Relationship You Want…
      - 54 days ago, 29 Aug 14, 8:33pm -


    • Top 10 Things Every Single Gal Must Experience
      The other day my girlfriend called up to regale me with yet another of her single and fabulous stories. This one involved cocktails, a hot tub and a couple of sexy strangers. It reminded me of my own single days, and for that matter my own pair of se…
      - 19 Mar 14, 7:05am -
    • 25 Universal Truths About Men
      Most of the time, it’s smart to stay away from making generalizations about “the unfamiliar.” But sometimes there’s truth in these statements and men can certainly fall into this category for us. That’s why Relationship Doctor Bob Grant ris…
      - 27 Feb 14, 8:00am -
    • Why Women Feel More Attached after Sex than Men
      Could your hormones be the reason you feel close to him after sex? Find out what effect the hormone oxytocin could be having on your relationships and sex life.
      - 25 Feb 14, 8:00am -


    • Love Language: The Art of Love Expression

      Love Language: The Art of Love Expression

      “He said I don’t love him anymore, Can you even believe that?  My married friend whined barely taking a break from her Margarita. I didn’t say anything so she continued, “I mean I tell him I love him, at least twice a day….”…
      - 9 days ago, 14 Oct 14, 4:37am -
    • Marriage Gist: 7 Must-Have Conversations Before “I Do”

      Marriage Gist: 7 Must-Have Conversations Before “I Do”

      Marriage is defined in a number of ways. It has different meanings depending on the basis on which it is entered. The Bible defines it as a covenant by two individuals and God. The law defines it as a contract. Cultural anthropologists ha…
      - 15 days ago, 8 Oct 14, 5:42am -
    • Husband Gist: Dear NwaVic, Am I Settling?

      Husband Gist: Dear NwaVic, Am I Settling?

      Dear NwaVic, I’m in my late 20s (ok, almost 30 lol) and ready to settle down. I am dating around and generally getting a feel of what I want in a husband. None of them particularly stand out. The one who is my type to the T and with who…
      - 29 days ago, 23 Sep 14, 6:01pm -
    • 6 Reasons Why Being Single Pretty Much Sucks

      6 Reasons Why Being Single Pretty Much Sucks

      Being single whether by choice or by circumstance has its benefits. Many some might add, but being single also has its down sides, and quite a bit if you ask me. No one here is encouraging you to start running after every partner you can…
      - 35 days ago, 17 Sep 14, 12:09pm -
    • Do You think it is Hard to Find a Good Man in Nigeria? Read what Ali Baba Thinks

      Do You think it is Hard to Find a Good Man in Nigeria? Read what Ali Baba Thinks

      Comedian Ali Baba shares this write up on his Facebook page about the Nigerian woman and finding Mr Right. Read Below…   “I have a serious matter at hand that I want to share. In fact, I should have shared this long ago, but the prim…
      - 36 days ago, 16 Sep 14, 10:37am -
    • 9 Things Guys Do That Absolutely Annoy Women

      9 Things Guys Do That Absolutely Annoy Women

      What do they say? Men are from mars and women from Venus? Yes. Men and women might never fully understand each other, but we’ll have to come to accept that. What we do want to do however is try not to annoy each other too much, and that…
      - 41 days ago, 11 Sep 14, 10:11am -
    • Dear NwaVic, I Got Engaged and My Friends Disappeared

      Dear NwaVic, I Got Engaged and My Friends Disappeared

      Dear NwaVic, I decided to write you today because I know you are also engaged as well.  My fiance proposed to me earlier this year. I was so excited. I love him and my friends all seemed to love him. But then just like magic, they starte…
      - 43 days ago, 9 Sep 14, 5:51pm -
    • 11 Signs That You Are Totally In Love

      11 Signs That You Are Totally In Love

      We all love to love! Who doesn’t like to love? Well some dont. But interestingly enough, most of us don’t even know when we’re falling in love. Here are some signs you’re definitely falling in love. 1) You forget about your ex Thi…
      - 57 days ago, 26 Aug 14, 11:46am -
    • Dear NwaVic, I Want to See my Wife With Someone Else

      Dear NwaVic, I Want to See my Wife With Someone Else

      Dear NwaVic, So yes, I am turning to the Internet as my wife and I have discussed the idea of her being with another man. I saw a few of your comments and didn’t know if you may feel comfortable entertaining a few questions about your t…
      - 65 days ago, 18 Aug 14, 10:16pm -
    • 8 Tips On Pulling Off A Successful One Night Stand

      8 Tips On Pulling Off A Successful One Night Stand

      If you’re not one of those holier than thou people then please keep your comments to yourself. For the rest of you read on… If you haven’t had a one night stand before, don’t worry, we have some tips for you on how to pull one off…
      - 77 days ago, 6 Aug 14, 6:44pm -
    • 7 Marriage Truths You Will Not Hear in the Church

      7 Marriage Truths You Will Not Hear in the Church

      I came across this article yesterday, thanks to my FB friend Julia. It is written by Frank Powell on his blog. He runs a great blog, by the way. In light of a similar article I penned, this article is very much on-point. By reading, I lea…
      - 83 days ago, 31 Jul 14, 5:16pm -
    • Dear NwaVic, My Christian Girlfriend says my Religion is a Dealbreaker

      Dear NwaVic, My Christian Girlfriend says my Religion is a Dealbreaker

        Dear NwaVic, I was a player few years ago but when my brother returned from the UK, he wanted me to change and I did so. So when he returned to the Uk, he (my bro) introduced me to a girl in the UK who happens to be a very good friend…
      - 85 days ago, 29 Jul 14, 3:01pm -
    • Proposing To Your Future Husband; Would You Do It?

      Proposing To Your Future Husband; Would You Do It?

      So the trend has been catching on recently, and there’s been a few pictures floating around with woman proposing to their future husbands and life partners etc. Now the discussion has gone in all kinds of directions recently on social m…
      - 87 days ago, 28 Jul 14, 6:18am -
    • Are You Ready to Move in Together? 8 Signs To Show You’re?

      Are You Ready to Move in Together?  8 Signs To Show You’re?

      8 Signs You’re Ready to Move in Together … If you’ve been with your boyfriend for a while, you may be looking for signs you’re ready to move in together. This is a big step with a lot of things to consider. To help you make sure,…
      - 87 days ago, 27 Jul 14, 5:03pm -
    • Dear NwaVic, After 2 years, Is it time to give up on my ex?

      Dear NwaVic, After 2 years, Is it time to give up on my ex?

      Dear NwaVic, I am in love with a girl named Peace. I asked her out but she didn’t accept for the main time so I gave it a break for sometime. Then, my friend who knew that I love this girl came and asked me if she is available. I gav…
      - 9 Jul 14, 3:36pm -
    • Is Love Enough?

      Is Love Enough?

      In a nutshell. Hell NO!! Don’t worry I was one of those guys that dreamt, that preyed, that wished it was so. That meeting the right person would dissolve any issues of conflict, fighting or heaven forbid a staleness of passion for each…
      - 8 Jul 14, 3:40pm -
    • 5 Signs That She’s Too Young For You Bruh!

      5 Signs That She’s Too Young For You Bruh!

      You’ve been there before. You’re in your late twenties and you meet the hot chick you think might be right for you. But hold on bro, she just might be too young for you no matter how much you think you like dating younger girls. Plus…
      - 8 Jul 14, 12:20pm -
    • ‘Half Of A Yellow Sun’ Finally Approved! Watch Clips and Check Out Images from the Film

      ‘Half Of A Yellow Sun’ Finally Approved! Watch Clips and  Check Out Images from the Film

      Various Nigerian press outlets and journalists (via Twitter) are reporting that Biyi Bandele’s “Half Of A Yellow Sun” – a film adaptation of celebrated author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s Orange Prize-winning novel of the sam…
      - 6 Jul 14, 5:01am -
    • Toke Moments: Have You Met a Man with a Fish-Brain?

      Toke Moments: Have You Met a Man with a Fish-Brain?

      Well to the readers have you? Met a man with Fish-Brain? Or even a woman? We haven’t but maybe Toke Makinwa has. She’s really on a rant on this one, but it’s funny though.
      - 2 Jul 14, 3:03pm -
    • Relationship Advise from Lami Philips (read)

      Relationship Advise from Lami Philips (read)

      The soul singer Lami, took to Facebook to share with young women her thoughts on relationships. Read below…    
      - 19 Jun 14, 12:42pm -